Gratitude and Attitude

For the last few years I’ve been on a self-development journey, however recently I’ve come to realise that, while development is good, understanding my self and being happy & accepting of where and who I am now is more important.

We often struggle with where and who we are in this present moment, we see and feel the pain and that overcomes any sensation of pleasure that may be available to us. No way out, no escape, no future. Yet there is. There always is a way to find the pleasure.

Gratitude : a word bandied about so much right now that it is in danger of losing its power. But power it has, and in abundance.

For me, at times over the last few years, I have felt despair and as though there was no way out and it was the small feelings of gratitude that helped me through it. Sitting in the garden on a sunny day, knowing there was fresh coffee available, time to read a fun book, friends I could turn to, a cosy home to live in. There are myriad ways to find those little bits of life to be grateful for and when you think of them, note them in your mind or your journal, then they ease the moment of despair. You realise that life is not all that bad really, that there is light and love ahead.

Attitude : your attitude to your situation can have an amazing effect on how I feel

Viewing a situation from different points of view, accepting something you cannot change, changing something you can. These all enable you to be more at peace about your situation. In my experience there is very little you cannot change, there are things you cannot though – and those you have to find the ways to adapt to them, to deal with them in positive ways. If we can find the good in a situation or ways to accept it then we can feel more at peace within our lives.

There’s lots more I could ramble on about here, and there’s lots of situations I know these words won’t help with. However, you could try and see if they will work, because there’s no harm in trying eh?

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Don’t try going forward in reverse

If you’re a little like me, and I’ve noticed there’s a few of us out there, you will be fed up with the way business is being conducted at the moment – all hustle and pain points and persuasion and even shaming (yucky I know) – all to make the sale.

It’s all too easy to completely reject everything – but it’s that the right decision?

Walk away from everything … even the tried and tested methods that work? Just because it’s what ‘everyone else’ does and you don’t want to work that way. That’s like saying you’re gonna use reverse gear to drive your car coz everyone uses forwards ones and you want to be different. 

Yes, we want to move away from the ickiness but that does not mean abandon everything, it means finding the ways that work and then adjusting them to your own beliefs, the ways that you want to work with your clients, the ways that you want to attract your clients.

  • Sales funnels don’t have to follow one formula.
  • Pointing out pain points isn’t the only way to create a sale.
  • Shaming someone into a purchase just is not right.

Learn from the techniques, then adapt them. Don’t abandon them because you don’t like them – they work for a reason – find the reason that is aligned with your ethics and do it that way.

NB : make sure you’re not using the “I don’t like working that way” as an excuse for not selling at all.

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What is your passion?

It doesn’t have to be one thing, it doesn’t have to be the thing that makes you money, but to have a passion I feel is so important. Something that lights you up, that brings peace and joy to your life, that fires your spirit, that you smile when you think about it.

A place to escape.

Writing words is a passion. Helping others on their path is a passion. Reading … oh reading is definitely a passion. Slaying goblins, hmmm maybe not quite a passion but it is an escape.

To me, having a passion is a way to cast off the mundane, to connect with my heart and soul, to free my mind from worry – not necessarily all of these things at once, but at least one of them. We can become so bogged down by everyday problems and to have a passion gives us the opportunity to stop thinking about them and come back with fresh perspective and energy.

When passion and business collide … well that can be a great thing, an fabulous thing. But it can also be draining and dreary because our passion, if we’re not careful. can be drowned by the ‘need’ to make money from it. Be aware of this when you follow that passionate business path.

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42 Thoughts : be of service to others

Not in a ‘give everything you have without thought for yourself’ kind of way because that would be irresponsible, and not in a servile ‘I am beneath you’ kind of way either.

Definition : be of service – be available to assist someone

I want you to feel that every day you have something to share with the world, and that as a member of the community it is your duty to make sure that your community can benefit from your actions. I want you to remember that by helping others we help ourselves because when we all grow we all benefit.

Do you not feel that if we all helped each other the world would be a better place? That instead of looking at someone struggling and thinking “there but for the grace of <insert your own deity here> go I” it would be awesome if we offered a helping hand.

What opportunities do you have each day to assist someone on their path? Do you see them or do they whizz past as you take the fast route to where you are going? Start to look for them, take the time to see where you could spend a few minutes of your time giving advice or help or whatever to make someone else’s journey that little bit easier.

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Get Up and Get On

We all have those days, the “what’s the point?” days, the mornings when staying huddled under the duvet seems a good life choice.

You know what, sometimes it is.

BUT…

Most often it isn’t, it’s simply fear whispering to us that we’re worthless (we’re not), and that we’ll never amount to anything (we will). It’s all those crushing doubts sending us back to the Cave of Comfort. When you are suffering from depression it seems such a chore to move, so difficult to find that energy … and yet we must.

I had a day like that yesterday. I felt like Marvin the Paranoid Android, “life, don’t talk to me about life”. I lay there for a moment, I wallowed for a second or three, I toyed with the idea of turning over and attempting more sleep. Yet something, just a little teensy something, tugged at me and I threw back the duvet and bounded wearily got out of bed.

It was a difficult thing to do, and I could have totally taken the easy option because I had nowhere really to go, but I didn’t succumb to the fear.

And you know what …

I got up, dressed, put on make-up, journalled, meditated, got the laptop out and ended up speaking to someone on a video call, helping them get some clarity and got some lovely feedback. It was one of those moments where, if I wasn’t dressed and looking half decent, I would have backed away and said a resounding Hell No. Instead I got the opportunity to connect with a lovely person and do a little bit of good in the world.

See, making the decision to take the road more rocky meant I received opportunities and could take advantage of them.

I felt that gentle prod and I took heed and I took action.

What are you going to do next time you “don’t wanna”? Are you going to give in or get up?

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Is it that time?

You’ve come so far, you’ve created a business from thin air, you’ve worked and struggled and now you’re kinda stuck.

It’s not that you don’t quite know what you need to do next. It’s not that you haven’t got the drive and determination. It’s just that you’re … stuck. You’re at the foot of the hillside and you know you need to uplevel (whatever that means) but try as you might you can’t quite reach the next ledge to haul yourself upwards.

I’ve been there, at that point where I need an extra push upwards/forwards, a little oomph to get the momentum running again. How did I get mine?

I found myself people who would give me that push (I’m randomly signing a Van Halen song now). Some I paid for the support, others gave it freely (and contrarywise while the free help is always awesome, the paid for help is what gets done).

Are you at this point?

Now, I can see you looking skeptical and thinking “yeah she’s about to sell me something”, well maybe I am but not quite what you think. 

Yes, I’d love to work with you BUT ONLY IF WE’RE RIGHT FOR EACH OTHER. I cannot emphasise this enough, you need to find groups and individuals who resonate with you, who are ahead of you, who can truly give you the support you deserve – not what they think you need.

There are options too, one to one is not necessarily what you need at this stage (and you may not be able to afford it).

  • One to one
  • Group programs
  • Masterminds
  • Paid Facebook groups
  • Membership groups

All valid suggestions to get you moving again.

Money! This is the point where I hear you crying out “I can’t afford it” and in many cases I know you speak the truth, and I am never going to shame you into purchasing something you can’t afford because that is totally unethical and horrible and just ewwwww.

However, perhaps you can’t find the money for one-to-one, and maybe a high-end group program is still out of your reach, but seek and ye shall find, there will be ways you can afford to get the help you need. Ask me for suggestions.

I am offering a mash-up of a group program and a mastermind which I intend to make affordable (and it includes a one-to-one call with me). You can find the details to Reset to Success here. However, do ask around because while this is an awesome program it will not be for everyone and you need to give yourself options. It’s by application only and I am aiming to start mid-April so get your details in quickly.

Round up : you will get to a stage where you need more than the free help which is saturating the internet. Find yourself the right paid-for support for YOU and YOUR BUDGET and then take it and use it.

Change the way you think about yourself, your life, and your business so that you can forge your own path with confidence, courage, and conviction.

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