Done is Better Than Perfect

I was asked yesterday how I quantify what I do for clients, really I was being asked to put a hard figure on it but, while the bottom line is always important because you can’t have a business with no plans to generate income (that’s just a hobby), what I do is be your catalyst for action. And action will end up generating income.

For instance, I had an hour session with Michelle who was procrastinating a little over launching The SpeakEasy Cooperative however after an hour of geeky chat as well as lots of advice and encouragement she did “get off thine bum” and launch. And from there has built on that action and created success for herself – “members joined immediately”.

You can read the rest of Michelle’s blog here.

So next time you’re procrastinating over your next brave action remember done is better than perfect and get off thine bum and do something awesome.

 

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Look down at your feet, right now. What path are you walking?

No really, imagine this with me for a minute. We’re all on some path in life…which one are you on?

  • A winding, well-beaten path through the woods with scenery and a Tolkein reference
  • A smooth, ultra-modern highway with clear signage and big buildings on all sides
  • A brand-new path because you’re the one forging it, one step at a time
  • Or, do you wish you would just choose one, but you can’t make up your mind?

But more importantly:

Is it your path, or someone else’s? Schedule a chat and let's find out.

let's find your path

Confidence is a Muscle

confidence is a muscleI’m on a mission. A mission to get healthier and fitter and stronger. I’m at a ‘certain age’ where taking care of my health and body, strengthening my muscles and bones, becomes quite important – not that it isn’t important at any age but it’s getting imperative to do so if I want a healthy and active old age.

To achieve this I am hitting the gym and lifting weights, there’s cardio in there but it’s mainly weights and resistance work.

When you start out you don’t go to the barbell with the biggest weights and try lifting it. You know that’d be more than a little silly and probably lead to injury. You start with the smaller weights and you build it up. I’ve been going to the gym regularly for the last three months or so and have noticed that I am gradually increasing the weights I use, that each workout I push a little further and become a little stronger. My muscles are increasing efficiency and strength each time I hit the gym. Each movement that felt a little awkward to begin with is now smoother and my body seems to set itself in the right position more readily and easily.

And confidence is like a muscle. You can’t expect to be all the swagger and loud confidence on your first day in work (OK some people can but they won’t be reading this) you walk in, a little unsure of yourself, not knowing where anything is or who people are. Yet slowly you gain little pieces of knowledge, feedback that you know what you are doing, The more you wander the corridors the surer you are of where you are and where you’re going. The more you speak to fellow workers you learn and remember their names, know what to say.

Confidence is a muscle that needs to be used, and pushed, in order to become its most effective self.

Start small, do something you *know* you can do to give you that boost, that “yes I CAN” knowledge. Then go do something a little more difficult (no, don’t leap for the 50kg weight, try a 10kg one first to see how that feels). Practise daily building that confidence muscle and before you know it you’ll be bench-pressing 50kg and feeling awesome.

To help you practise I put together a Practise Confidence pdf. This is totally free to download, no opt-in or anything. I simply want to gift you something that will help make building that confidence muscle a little easier.

I'd love to work with you

Look down at your feet, right now. What path are you walking?

No really, imagine this with me for a minute. We’re all on some path in life…which one are you on?

  • A winding, well-beaten path through the woods with scenery and a Tolkein reference
  • A smooth, ultra-modern highway with clear signage and big buildings on all sides
  • A brand-new path because you’re the one forging it, one step at a time
  • Or, do you wish you would just choose one, but you can’t make up your mind?

But more importantly:

Is it your path, or someone else’s? Schedule a chat and let's find out.

let's find your path

Do You Need a Doodad?

do you need a doodadWhat’s a doodad?? You know, a thingumajig, a whatsisname, in plain English – something physical (ish) your clients can walk away with.

Mentoring a client the other day and we got to discussing the online course she is putting together. One thing that kinda worries her is that at the end of the course you don’t walk away with ‘something’. As in something tangible – like a 90 day marketing plan, or an online course laid out and ready to go, or a portfolio of photographs … you catch my drift.

This got me thinking, because often when clients talk with me they do not walk away with anything physically tangible. There’s no doodad. And yet there is value in what I do, and also what my client offers. So here’s some thoughts for those who may ask the question “where’s my doodad?”.

When you visit a personal trainer you don’t walk away with anything, maybe a workout plan, however more often than not this is simply a list of tools for you to use in the future as you will – the more you put into using those tools the more you’ll get out. Similarly, visiting a therapist gives you the opportunity to talk and be listened to and be given different perspectives and (again) tools to help you improve, yet that too is quite dependent on you using those tools.

And that’s the same for many mentors, coaches, whatever name you want to give people of that ilk. You receive the tools you need to make your life and business better. Not a doodad. Those tools are important, those skills are with you for the lifetime you choose them to be, they are there every single day for you.

Use them wisely and well and often and you will see the benefit.

This is why you invest in people like this, not for the doodad and thingumajig, but for the tools and skills to help yourself.

I'd love to work with you

Look down at your feet, right now. What path are you walking?

No really, imagine this with me for a minute. We’re all on some path in life…which one are you on?

  • A winding, well-beaten path through the woods with scenery and a Tolkein reference
  • A smooth, ultra-modern highway with clear signage and big buildings on all sides
  • A brand-new path because you’re the one forging it, one step at a time
  • Or, do you wish you would just choose one, but you can’t make up your mind?

But more importantly:

Is it your path, or someone else’s? Schedule a chat and let's find out.

let's find your path

How to approach an introvert 101

approaching introvertsDON’T

(joking, well, not really, but …)

I went to the gym this morning (yay, go me) to do my workout routine – cardio, weights, squats, abs – I sometimes go to classes but usually I want to get my workout done earlier than the class times. Sometimes I wear headphones and listen to music or a podcast but today I didn’t.

So, I was there, on the resistance machine thingies strengthening my muscles when one of the trainers, who I don’t know, came up and criticised my positioning.

Note : she may have been right, I may have my seat too low, I will check that next time

It wasn’t that she was wrong, or that I felt I knew better that made my hackles rise and my fur bristle (no I don’t have fur, that was just for effect) it was two things that she did that as an introvert I really, really have a problem with.

  1. she approached me when I was busy working out, interrupted me in my quiet time when I was concentrating
  2. she criticised me in public and directly

It was not that she was wrong, and I am sure her intentions were good, however her method was totally off-putting.

Here’s how I would have preferred and appreciated her advice being given.

Note : if I had been doing something that would have led to injury then she should have totally done what she did

Instead of interrupting my concentration for a small problem I would have been more receptive if she had approached me after my workout, while I was leaving and open to conversation, and done it in a space that wasn’t as noisy so she had to raise her voice. I would have also reacted better if instead of direct “don’t you think your seat is too low” she had led into the criticism with “I saw you working out on XYZ machine earlier and couldn’t help wondering if you’d get more targeted results if you raised your seat a little”.

Yes it’s her job to help people in the gym, yes she was probably right, yes I shouldn’t be so sensitive (it’s my prerogative though and I will if I want to 🙂 )

But if you want people to be receptive to your ideas, thoughts, and actions then you have to approach them in the right way to open up dialogue and minds. 

Her approach immediately shut down my receptiveness. I politely told her I was fine thank you very much rather than being open to the constructive criticism she was trying to give me.

So next time you approach anyone, online or in person, introvert or not (we don’t go around with signs on our foreheads), then please be aware how your words and actions could be construed and act accordingly.

I'd love to work with you

Look down at your feet, right now. What path are you walking?

No really, imagine this with me for a minute. We’re all on some path in life…which one are you on?

  • A winding, well-beaten path through the woods with scenery and a Tolkein reference
  • A smooth, ultra-modern highway with clear signage and big buildings on all sides
  • A brand-new path because you’re the one forging it, one step at a time
  • Or, do you wish you would just choose one, but you can’t make up your mind?

But more importantly:

Is it your path, or someone else’s?

let's find your path

What else you know, nana?

what elseWhen I was young, so the story goes, I used to sit on the counter-top watching my nana cook or bake and she’d tell me stories and nursery rhymes. At the end of each I’d ask “what else you know nana?” And my nana would have to start another tale, recall another rhyme to satisfy my thirst for knowledge.

As we get older we often lose that need, the thirst to ‘know more’, usually because education systems drain it out of us. Yet we should always be asking

“… and what else?”

Never settle, never think you know everything, never think you have done everything possible. There is always more,

 

I'd love to work with you

Look down at your feet, right now. What path are you walking?

No really, imagine this with me for a minute. We’re all on some path in life…which one are you on?

  • A winding, well-beaten path through the woods with scenery and a Tolkein reference
  • A smooth, ultra-modern highway with clear signage and big buildings on all sides
  • A brand-new path because you’re the one forging it, one step at a time
  • Or, do you wish you would just choose one, but you can’t make up your mind?

But more importantly:

Is it your path, or someone else’s?

let's find your path

Make Some Ripples

Ripples make waves Times can be hard, and at this point there are definitely hard times all around us. To some of us the world seems to be tearing itself apart yet we are often afraid that there will be nothing left to even consider rebuilding. And we ask ourselves …

What can I do?

We sit alone in our castles and wonder about that question, thinking and feeling that there is nothing we can do, how can we/I make a difference, I have no influence.

Yes, you have influence.

No matter how small and (seemingly) insignificant we all have a circle of influence. And the members of that circle have their circles, and the members of their circles have other circles – do you see it? How you standing up for what’s right, for your beliefs, for yourself, for others, can make a small ripple that travels farther and farther out beyond your reach or knowledge. Travelling under its own impetus, yet started with one small action from yourself. Gathering momentum and support and agreement. Spreading courage and conviction, and commitment to make the world better.

There’s more to life than taking, JFK sure had that right, we all have the responsibility to do more, be more, and take action to make the ‘verse a better place for everyone. We are not helpless.

What ripples are you going to make today?

 

I'd love to work with you

Look down at your feet, right now. What path are you walking?

No really, imagine this with me for a minute. We’re all on some path in life…which one are you on?

  • A winding, well-beaten path through the woods with scenery and a Tolkein reference
  • A smooth, ultra-modern highway with clear signage and big buildings on all sides
  • A brand-new path because you’re the one forging it, one step at a time
  • Or, do you wish you would just choose one, but you can’t make up your mind?

But more importantly:

Is it your path, or someone else’s?

let's find your path